Friday, May 25 was a normal day. Mordy helped me get the kids ready for school. He took me to work and we chatted on the phone a few times during the day.
Around 2:30pm, he called me at work. All he could say was "come home" and moan. I asked what happened, what was wrong, and again he said "come home." I immediately got a ride home and found him on the floor. He was awake, but not able to talk very much.
I called 911 and the police and ambulances came. At that point, Mordy was able to communicate, one word at a time, with great effort, that he had been watching TV when he sneezed. Right after that, his head started hurting. After communicating that to me, he began to vomit.
The ambulance took him to the hospital and he still wasn't able to speak very much. In the emergency room, the doctors and nurses tried to treat him to figure out what was wrong. But if they touched him, he'd shout "ow" or push them away with his hands. Because he was making it difficult for them to treat him, they sedated him and put a tube in his throat. They gave him every possibly test--CT scan, X-ray, spinal tap, and more. They ruled out a heart attack but didn't know what was wrong.
With test results pending, he was admitted to the Intensive Care Unit to be watched and for additional tests. It wasn't until Saturday that he was diagnosed with a stroke.
Mordy can talk in complete sentences (sometimes paragraphs) and is intellectually completely there. He remembers the stroke, calling me, and that I was crying when I found him. He also remembers his work, the research he has been doing lately, and other complex ideas. His mind and speech have not been affected.
The good news is that he has passed the 72-hour critical test quite well. He *was* seeing people sideways and upside down. He still has severe dizziness, which the doctors hope will subside as soon as the swelling in his brain diminishes. His stroke was a bloodless one, caused by a lack of oxygen in the cerebellum (the part of the brain that controls coordination and balance), that's why he gets dizzy so easily.
We still don't know what caused the stroke, but the doctors are trying to figure that out. The physicians are still guarded about the prognosis, but we're hoping for the best.
He can't receive visitors in the ICU, so please don't come to visit. As his condition improves, I'll post info about when he'll be up for receiving visitors.
Esther and Mordy -
ReplyDeleteAll of us at shul have been thinking of you and praying for Mordy's speedy and complete recovery. We will of course do anything we can to help you get through this difficult time.
Sam, Sue, Aviva, and Noah
PS - (from Sue)
DeleteA friend of mine had a stroke in December (at age 43) and it sounds similar... severe headache and vomiting, left with dizziness, and balance issues. When the time comes, if Mordy would find it helpful to talk to her, I'm happy to "introduce" them. It's a LONG road ahead, but the good news is that she has made steady progress over the 5 months since it happened. May Mordy's path be similar!!
Mordy and Esther,
DeleteYou are in my prayers for refuah shleimah and strength.
With much love,
Lilly
So sad to hear about this, but incredibly glad that Mordy is doing better. Wishing you and the kids love and keeping Mordy in our prayers.
ReplyDeleteAvi & Justin
Oh my G-d Esther what a complete nightmare. We are thinking of you and wish we were there to help and to hear more about how you are handling this with the boys. Love, Ben and Leah
ReplyDeleteRfuah Shleima. My thoughts are with you at this time.
ReplyDeleteSara Stave
Thank God you got to him in time. What a nightmare... and right before a three day yuntif! We have all of ya'll in our tefillot.
ReplyDeleteJosh & Rebecca Cypess
God, I'm so sad to hear about this. Please send him our love and let us know when there is anything we can do.
ReplyDeleteJosh
Much love and thank you for keeping us updated. Refuah Shleima!
ReplyDeleteMarissa
you are all in my prayers!! refuah shelayma!!
ReplyDeleteRabbi Reed,
ReplyDeleteMy prayers will be with your husband, you and the rest of your family. It sounds like he is recovering well.
With love and prayers,
Glenn
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Mordy. May Mordy have a compplete refuah shleima, a renewal of body and a renewal of spirit very soon.
ReplyDeleteOh, Esther. I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish I was nearby and able to help. Know that I am cheering you on from a distance and holding you all in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteElyse Winick
Esther, I am so sorry to learn of this; I thank you for keeping us all posted and for telling us how best to be helpful. Mordy and you and your children will be in my heart and my prayers as I pray for Mordy to have a refuah shleimah.
ReplyDeleteLaura
I'm thinking of you and your family, Esther. Refuah shlemah to Mordy and strength to all of you in the days and weeks ahead.
ReplyDeleteRobin Axelrod
I was so very sad to learn this news. My hugs, thoughts and prayers are with you and Mordy.
ReplyDeletelove,
Shuly Schwartz
Thinking of you and praying for a r'fuah shleimah for Mordy. Andy Koren (Greensboro, NC)
ReplyDeletedearest Mordy
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and saying prayers for a complete recovery.
Lots of love,
Rachel
Sabath Beit Halachmi
Esther-
ReplyDeleteYou, Mordy, and the boys are in our thoughts and prayers. As you know all of us here in HP are ready to help you in any way needed, especially in relation to the boys. We hope and pray for a complete and speedy recovery.
Marsha, Phil, Avi, Noam and Shayna Goldwasser
dearest Mordy
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and saying prayers for a complete recovery.
Lots of love,
Rachel
Sabath Beit Halachmi
Esther,
ReplyDeleteYou were there for me when my dad had a stroke. I hope to be there for you, Mordy and the boys. Wishing you only the best during what I know is a challenging time. Refuah Shleyma to Mordy.
Jeremy Ruberg
Esther, know that my thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Much strength on the road ahead. Refuah sh'leima, Mordy!
ReplyDeleteEsther
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with you and your family. Thinking of you all.
Kerri Willson
I am so sorry to hear about this -- but grateful for the encouraging news. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please accept my heartfelt prayer for a Refuah shleimah, Carl Perkins
ReplyDeleteDear Esther:
ReplyDeletewhat a shock to hear this news. My prayers are with you and Mordy for a quick and full recovery.
Diane Cohen
Esther, Oy gevalt.... I send you love and support and will add Mordy to my personal tefillot and to those of my community.... Refuah Shleymah V'Hizki V'imtzi, Love, David Lerner
ReplyDeleteDear Esther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear this news. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you both for a speedy recovery. Also know that we are available whenever you need us.
Refuah Shleimah,
Rachel Ain & Dave Levy
Esther,
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts and prayers are with you and Mordy. May he, and you, find all the strength you need during this time. Sending our best to all of you and the boys...
Noah & Tammy Arnow
Rabbi--I'm sorry to hear about this. I hope Mordy gets well soon. I don't know what I can do from Cherry Hill, but you are in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteEsther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteOur prayers are with you for a refuah sheleima. Even in the midst of a 3-day chag, you were both on everyone's minds and lips...the entire community was with you in spirit if not in person. Whatever we can do, of course you can count on us.
Mike, Lisa and Jayna Weis
Oh Esther ...what craziness. Unbelievable. You are a strong mother, wife, and professional...I hope you find the time to take a breath and care for yourself as well. All my love and thoughts for speedy recovery are with you. Take good care....
ReplyDeleteLove,
Leda
Esther, Wishing Mordy a refua shleyma oo'm'heira. And that you find the support and caring you need as well as you support Mordy and your kids through this challenging time. Adam Weisberg
ReplyDeleteEsther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for posting this detailed letter to all who care so much for you and think about you. What a relief to know he's on the road to recovery! The whole schul was worried all through the chag... The entire community is praying for Mordy's speedy Refua Sheima. Your boys were terrific today, by-the-way, both in schul and at Beth's for lunch. They'd have made you proud. If there's anything I can do to help...
Debbie Gerber
Esther, thank you for posting the update in the midst of everything. I'll daven for Mordy, and send love to you & he and the boys.
ReplyDeleteDan Rosenberg
We're praying for Mordy's speedy recovery and can't wait to hear his loud laugh again.
ReplyDeleteMichael Pitkowsky
Esther -- our hearts and prayers and with you and Mordy for a full recovery; Tachzik Maa'amd -- be strong and steadfast.
ReplyDeleteRob and Shira Goldberg
Rabbi Esther & Mordy, and the boys,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear the news. I wasn't much older than Isaac when the same thing happened to my dad. G-d willing Mordy will have a speed recovery. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Jordana
Esther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts and prayers are with you. Although this is a terrible event, it will get better every day, because of your strength and the support you have and will continue to have from your friends and family.
Seth Gross and Lisa Zimmerman
Dear Esther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you.
Beth Naditch
Mordy, we're rooting for you...refuah sheleimah!
ReplyDeleteEli
I will be keeping Mordy and all of you in my prayers! Refuah shlemah! Love, Amber Powers
ReplyDeleteEsther--we will pray for Mordy's refuah sheleimaih--please send him our love.
ReplyDeleteDanny and Lynn
All the best for a complete recovery! - Refuah Sheleimaih.
ReplyDeleteScott Littky
Praying for a speedy recovery.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing the news, as sad as it is. Wishing you and the kids well and of course a refu'a mehira u-shelema for Mordy. Please post Mordy's Hebrew name and his mother's for mi-sheberakh.
ReplyDeleteAlan Cooper
Mordy's Hebrew Name is: Mordecai Pinchas HaLevi Ben Chana Sarah. Thank you!
DeleteEsther,
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts are with you. We are here to help in any way we can.
Refuah Shlemah to Mordy.
Eric, Joddie, Gabriella & Macaria Pelofsky
Mordy, you're constantly in our prayers for a complete and speedy recovery. Esther, you and the boys are in our prayers for continued strength.
ReplyDeleteMichele and Joel
I want to add my wishes to all those above for a refuah shelemah to Mordy. My thoughts are with you all.
ReplyDeleteBeth Berkowitz
We will be holding Mordy in our prayers, watching and hoping and always ready to help.
ReplyDeleteJulie Schonfeld
Esther, wishing love and strength to you and to Mordy and Isaac, Sammy and Jonah. Please do keep us posted with updates and how to help.
ReplyDeleteAshira (and Tim).
We are sending much love to you and your family. We will be keeping all of you in our thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteMicah and Rachel
Dear Mordy and Esther,
ReplyDeleteThinking of you both and davening for your speedy and complete recovery, Mordy! Thanks for keeping us updated. Debra Shaffer Seeman
Refuah sheleimah to Mordy and peace of mind and calm to you both.
ReplyDeleteMordy, Ariela and I sent our deepest love; your indomitable spirit will be a great asset to you during this. Esther, as things get clearer, we will be in touch to see how we can help.
ReplyDeleteLove to you both.
Ethan and Ariela
Esther,
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts and prayers are with you. Wishing Mordy a speedy and complete recovery and strength for you and your family.
We are thinking of all of you and hope for Mordy's speedy recovery. Although we're some distance away, please let us know if we can help with the kids.
ReplyDeleteTed and family.
Esther and Mordy
ReplyDeleteWe are so sorry to hear what you are going through and praying for a speedy recovery.
Ariela & Ethan
Rabbi Reed-
ReplyDeleteWe are keeping Mordy, you, and the boys in our thoughts and prayers. Wishing him a speedy recovery.
Love,
Sara and David
Esther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteI'm sending my love and prayers "from the other side". I'm here - please know if there's anything in the world I can do to support you as Mordy walks the path of healing. Esther, try to get rest and try to take care of yourself. Many people around the world are thinking of you.
Love,
Julie Pelc Adler
Prayers for a refuah shalemah. So sorry to hear of Mordy's incident, illness, and struggle. I hope his recovery goes well and that your whole family gets back on their right feet again soon. --Jeremy Winaker
ReplyDeleteDear Esther,
ReplyDeleteWe are 1000% thinking and praying for you and Mordy. The entire community is as well. We prayed for him before birkat at Keven's. We are with you and pray that slowly he will recover.
Hugs,
Craig, Joshua, Ilana, and Natalie
Mordy and Esther,
ReplyDeleteYou and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
Best wishes for a speedy and full recovery,
Jenny and Zalman
Esther and Mordy and family--Sending you all much love and good wishes and prayers for a refuah shleymah. Love, Jill and Guy
ReplyDeleteEsther and Mordy - We are praying for a refuah shlemah for Mordy and that you and your family will feel held by community, now and always.
ReplyDeleteAnnie Lewis and Yosef Goldman
Dear Esther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteYou are in my thoughts and tefillot for a refuah sheleymah,
Amy Roth
Esther--
ReplyDeletePrayers for refuah shleimah and strength to both you and Mordy.
Sari Laufer
Mordy and Esther,
ReplyDeletePraying for you and wishing you all the strength you've provided to others over the years.
Chaim & Kelly
Esther, I'm at Robert Wood now visiting a congregant. Call or text 908-616-6995 if you want me to come down to ICU.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family for a speedy and full recovery.
ReplyDeleteJenny Kurtz
We are hoping and praying for Mordy's speedy and complete recovery.
ReplyDeleteAudrey, Joel, Lindsay and Mat Napchen
May Mordy have a speedy recovery. Refuah Shelema
ReplyDeleteLove,
Ellen
Esther and Mordy--Thinking of you all and including you in my prayers for a speedy recovery. Suzanne Kling
ReplyDeleteSending you our thoughts and prayers for a speedy recovery. Rebecca and Joshua Ben-Gideon
ReplyDeleteThinking of you and praying for Mordy' quick recovery. Lori Forman-Jacobi
ReplyDeleteWe're thinking of you constantly. Please add us to your wonderfully long list of well-wishers.
ReplyDeleteLove,
Karen, David, Eli and Sophie
Dear Mordy & Esther,
ReplyDeleteYou are in my heart and prayers for a refuah sheleimah, refuat hanefesh urefu'at haguf. I am so sorry that you are facing this challenge.
Anne Lapidus Lerner
I have been thinking of you since I heard and praying for a speedy recovery. Know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.
ReplyDeleteMichelle G.
Esther- In reading your update, I was really uplifted by the fact that Mordy asked for a Tanakh, a Mishnah and a Talmud. So trademark Mordy and a great sign that he is very much on the mend!!
ReplyDeleteYou all are in my prayers for healing, strength and peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteJulie and I praying for you guys as you go through this nightmare. This SUCKS! We have been really affected by the news, and are ROOTING for him and for you. We are heartened by the great support you seem to have around you. If there is anything, small or big, we can do now or later, we'll jump.
ReplyDeleteJustus
Esther and Mordy,
ReplyDeleteOur heart goes out to both of you as you navigate through this situation. We will pray for a speedy recovery for Mordy. Please know that we are happy to take the boys for a playdate or send a meal, whatever would work.
Amy Winn-Dworkin and Ben Dworkin
Mordy and Esther,
ReplyDeleteour thoughts and prayers are with you for a complete and speedy recovery,
Beth and Mark Brownstein
Mordy, we join those who are praying for your refuah shleimah. Our memories of you stretch back essentially to our first date, roaming Har HaTzofim on September 20, 1992. We are glad to hear that your memory is unscathed by this event. Esther, chazak v'ematz!
ReplyDeleteStephanie and Jeremy (Yahoo) Fink
We are so sorry to hear about what you are going through. We have been thinking about you and are encouraged by the progress you have already made so quickly.
ReplyDeleteRefuah Shlemah,
Adena, Jeff, Ezra and Kira
We hope and pray for a continued recovery for Mordy, and for continued strength for you and the children.
ReplyDeleteRefuah shleimah
Irv and Jenny Mandelbaum
Mordy & Esther,
ReplyDeleteOur thoughts and prayers for a complete recovery are with you!
Refuah Shelemah,
Joel & Leora
Dear Esther & Mordy,
ReplyDeleteYou are all in my heart and prayers as I think good thoughts for Mordy's full and quick recovery.
With warm thoughts and blessings,
Sara Horowitz
τὸν Θεὸν εὔχομαί σοι διδόναι ὑγίειαν! εὐδαιμονοίης ἐν τῇ ἡμέρᾳ τῶν σαββάτων! ~ ὁ σὸς φίλος, βερελ
ReplyDeleteκαὶ εὐδαιμονοίης ἐν Νέα Υόρκη!
ReplyDelete